When You’ve Outgrown the Old You.

There comes a time when your life still looks the same on the outside, but something inside you has shifted. The job, the relationship, the roles you’ve played for years, they no longer fit. You’re not quite who you used to be, but you’re not yet sure who you’re becoming.

Welcome to the in-between.

This space can feel confusing, lonely, and even a little scary. We like certainty. We like to know who we are and where we’re headed. But growth rarely works that way. It moves in spirals, not straight lines.

From a deeper inner lens, this discomfort is a sign that something deep in the unconscious is stirring. You’re being invited into a new relationship with yourself, one that’s more aligned with your truth, not your roles or your resume.

It often begins as a quiet restlessness. A sense that something no longer fits. It can show up in dreams, sudden irritations, or unexpected moments of grief over things you used to enjoy.

You might catch yourself saying, "I should be happy," yet something in you knows it’s time for a deeper kind of fulfillment. That knowing can be hard to explain to others, especially if your life looks "successful" on paper.

But your soul is not concerned with appearances. It wants congruence. It wants wholeness.

And to meet this new version of you, something has to be released.

Old habits. Old identities. Old stories that kept you safe but small.

Maybe it's the people-pleaser who always said yes. Or the achiever who never rested. Or the caretaker who forgot her own needs.

These parts served a purpose. They helped you survive. But they can't lead the way forward.

You might feel like you’re shedding a skin with no new one in sight. That’s normal. That’s the work. It’s not glamorous, and it doesn’t always come with big breakthroughs.

Sometimes it looks like crying on a random Tuesday. Or saying no and feeling guilty. Or telling the truth even when your voice shakes.

This isn’t about fixing anything. It’s about making space.

Shedding the layers that no longer belong to you so that what’s true can finally breathe.

You don’t need all the answers right now. You just need to stay in the conversation with yourself. Even when it feels awkward. Even when you’re not sure what you believe anymore.

Growth isn’t tidy. It’s more like compost, messy, rich, and strangely alive.

And here’s the tricky part: the people around you might not understand. They may still expect the old version of you to show up. They might question why you’re pulling back or changing course.

That’s okay. Part of this process is learning how to stay true to your unfolding self, even if others don’t quite get it yet.

You may also find that this space asks you to slow down. To get quiet enough to hear the voice that’s been buried under all the noise.

This isn’t a time for five-year plans or grand declarations. It’s a time for presence. For noticing what no longer energizes you, and what quietly calls to you now.

So if you find yourself asking, "Who am I becoming, and what do I need to let go of to meet her?" you’re on the right path. Even if it feels messy. Even if it’s taking longer than you thought.

This is the deeper unfolding of your authentic self. This is what real transformation looks like—quiet, slow, and honest.

You don’t have to rush it. You just have to keep listening. The new you is already on her way.

Want support during this in-between season?

Join us this September for a free book club gathering around Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness by Sharon Salzberg. We’ll explore self-compassion and soul-aligned growth through real conversation, shared reflection, and a supportive circle of kindred spirits.

This is a space for real talk, deep reflection, and connection with others who are also in transition. You’ll get support, insight, and a place to land when things feel uncertain.

We’ll read, reflect, and reconnect with ourselves and each other. Whether you’re craving depth, community, or just a sense that you’re not alone in this, there’s a place for you here.

Come join us in whatever way feels good to you:
✨ Join us online
✨ Join us in person

You don’t have to figure it all out alone.

With love and light,

Cindy Schmidt

Owner, Wild New Way Jungian Life & Relationship Coaching

wildnewway.com | 970-985-2416 | 813 Main Ave, Suite 201, Durango, CO

If you're feeling stuck in your relationships, unsure of your purpose, or simply looking for deeper meaning and fulfillment in your life, as a Certified Master Jungian Life and Relationship coach, Cindy Schmidt can help guide you toward greater self-awareness, clarity, and connection.

Through the lens of Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, you'll gain a deeper understanding of your inner world and develop tools to navigate life's challenges with greater ease and grace. If you're ready to embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery and growth, take action now and book a Complimentary Clarity Session with Cindy. The benefits of this work are immeasurable, and the possibilities for your life are endless. Don't wait another day to start living your most fulfilling, authentic life.